Listening
The latest actions to explore in life-coaching is Listening, Questioning, Metaphors & promoting Action.
There are 3 levels of Listening,
Level 1, the listener is hearing without full attention of what is being said; perhaps thinking of what you will say next or something you're looking in the vicinity or even drifting off on your thought processes.
Level 2, listening to the words only, within a business setting or such when the words are instructional and the person saying them is the messenger, in this case the content of what is being said is important and attention is focussed on that rather than who is speaking.
Level 3, When full attention is on the speaker as well as what is being said, listening with the eyes and identifying with the mood of the speaker. This conversation is far more likely to be relevant on a personal level to the speaker and/or the listener. The listener is looking for a deeper level of understanding of what is being said by the way in which it is being said.
There are Types of Listening...
Sympathetic; Empathic....feeling the conversation and identifying with what is being said... showing concerned by letting them know you can feel what they are going through...'I know what you mean.' or 'I've felt like that.' .... I know what it's like...
Active; Encouraging by positive interjections to keep the speaker speaking. Patiently 'helping' the speaker to expand on what they're saying.
Biased; Someone who has already decided what the listener is saying, they may finish the sentence off before the speaker has finished or interrupt before the speaker can finish. For example, they have made up their mind about the subject and are not looking to take on board further suggestions.
Disregarding; Listener is not actually listening, they are not 'attending' to what is being said, they are putting their attention elsewhere - object at hand or reading a paper, for instance.
Subliminal; Unconscious listening, background noise or the radio for instance. Only when something in the noise grabs your attention do you 'prick up your ears' and actively listen to what is being said or happening.
Affirmative; Agreeable listener who will encourage speaker to keep going, for example, when the speaker is passing on a shared point of view, or is showing that they have understood what has been said, i.e. a plan of action, as the speaker affirms they have understood, the listener interjects with comments such as 'That's right' 'Absolutely' 'Perfect' 'Good' etc.
Qualities of a good listener - in Life Coaching Terms.
There are 3 levels of Listening,
Level 1, the listener is hearing without full attention of what is being said; perhaps thinking of what you will say next or something you're looking in the vicinity or even drifting off on your thought processes.
Level 2, listening to the words only, within a business setting or such when the words are instructional and the person saying them is the messenger, in this case the content of what is being said is important and attention is focussed on that rather than who is speaking.
Level 3, When full attention is on the speaker as well as what is being said, listening with the eyes and identifying with the mood of the speaker. This conversation is far more likely to be relevant on a personal level to the speaker and/or the listener. The listener is looking for a deeper level of understanding of what is being said by the way in which it is being said.
There are Types of Listening...
Sympathetic; Empathic....feeling the conversation and identifying with what is being said... showing concerned by letting them know you can feel what they are going through...'I know what you mean.' or 'I've felt like that.' .... I know what it's like...
Active; Encouraging by positive interjections to keep the speaker speaking. Patiently 'helping' the speaker to expand on what they're saying.
Biased; Someone who has already decided what the listener is saying, they may finish the sentence off before the speaker has finished or interrupt before the speaker can finish. For example, they have made up their mind about the subject and are not looking to take on board further suggestions.
Disregarding; Listener is not actually listening, they are not 'attending' to what is being said, they are putting their attention elsewhere - object at hand or reading a paper, for instance.
Subliminal; Unconscious listening, background noise or the radio for instance. Only when something in the noise grabs your attention do you 'prick up your ears' and actively listen to what is being said or happening.
Affirmative; Agreeable listener who will encourage speaker to keep going, for example, when the speaker is passing on a shared point of view, or is showing that they have understood what has been said, i.e. a plan of action, as the speaker affirms they have understood, the listener interjects with comments such as 'That's right' 'Absolutely' 'Perfect' 'Good' etc.
Qualities of a good listener - in Life Coaching Terms.
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